What a cliché
and how difficult it is to build that perfect relationship!
We dream,
we make wishes, we search greedily for advice in magazines and all over the
internet. But when it comes to actually doing something, that’s when reality
knocks you out. A lot of effort, plans, fears of being rejected, fear of suffering
or to seem ridiculous… All these together lead to a wasted life in the kitchen
or in front of the TV watching a cheesy soap opera, dreaming of prince
charming, which will come to rescue us from our domestic prisons.
We look
around and see women, some not so handsome, some not so bright, but all
radiating the glow that only a fulfilled life and a successful marriage can
give you. Each and every one of them managed to find their perfect one. That’s
the moment when we start wondering – What do they have that we don’t? What is
it that we lack? Could it just be luck or destiny? Or maybe the repressed flawless
pattern of our imaginary better half plays against us? What if it’s all a
matter of too high expectations that would scare off even the mightiest and the
fittest of our possible suitors? In most cases the problem lies within us. The
surrounding environment has rarely devastating influence on the outcome of our lives.
The opportunities are equal to all of us. We are the ones who decide whether to
pluck up the courage and use what we are given, or to just sit back and
watch life passing us by, fantasizing again
and again about the same impossible, perfect story we’ve been told when little.
The time of
fairytales is long gone. We need to wake up, swim to the surface and take a
breath of fresh air. Our fantasies only pull us every day further from our own
picture of the two lovers, walking hand in hand towards the sunset…
It seems to
me that the higher the stakes we’ve set, the greater the fall will be. Why do
we knowingly sabotage the only chance we have at achieving the balance we long
for?
